The Wedding

 

The day started like every other day. My alarm went off at 4:45AM, except that I was already awake. I'd barely slept. Anxiety, fear, tension, all contributed to my not sleeping. "So all the goings-on, the preparation, the stress, the planning... It all ends in a day?"

I thought as I lay in bed waiting for 5:00 AM so I could drown all the tension and anxiety in prayer.

I got up to quickly use the bathroom and thought about my "before" dream wedding.  LOL. I chuckle when I remember "our dream weddings." Every girl in my life had a dream wedding.

Some wanted the big wedding, the big dress, big train, at least 8 bridesmaids and 8 groomsmen, 8 flower girls and 8 pageboys. Some even said they'd have both balloon and confetti girls. Not counting the ladies in waiting as well as àsoebi ladies (friends of the bride who don't make the wedding train) and àsoebi men (friends of the groom who also don't make the wedding train).

Mercy wanted class and pump. She was the classy type, loved to dress up and be glamorous always. So you can imagine her dream wedding...

Only the best of everything was good enough, "even the groom has to be the best😉 of them all" she insisted, but she didn't live to see the wedding day. She died in a ghastly auto crash

Ty is naturally calm and hype all in one. She doesn't need "anything" to get her in the mood for a "parry." She wants simple and classy but she is not going to compromise on the music. 

She intends to have Flavour at her reception. Yes, the musician. You read it correctly.  Flavour himself.  I can only imagine how that wedding would end up. It has to be in a very secure place and it must be indoors. No further entry once he's in and it wouldn't be announced. I'd gone on to plan the logistics for her. We are waiting...

Beth, on the other hand, wanted to have a three-day wedding.  On one of the days, she'd wear the popular Indian Sari. She wanted a BIG wedding.  Plenty to eat and drink. Àsoebi. Enough dancing, everything in excess. I was going to be her maid of honour,  but she later gave me conditions, I won't tell you what. She ended up having a quiet wedding.

Jummai has always wanted a simple wedding. She intends to cut out the extra days. She'd have just a one-day wedding as against the normal two days (which is the norm in Nigeria: traditional wedding on the first day, then the white wedding on the second, while the civil/court wedding is usually done quietly, (especially in Northern Nigeria), so it's not counted. She would have just a white wedding, with a few hundred people. Her reason has always been because her mum is no more.

Jade nko?  My dearest Jade😙.

All she knows is that it's going to be classy, elegant and FUN!!!! Hear her: "My dream wedding of today differs from my dream wedding ten years ago. My train would be the kids that I have adopted. They'll make up my wedding party. My friends can do àsoebi or whatever they decide to do. My train would have six bridesmaids and one little bride. My wedding gown is going to be silver, one that I plan to convert to a dinner dress after the wedding." Her theme would be black, silver and red. (She's still working that out). She wants it to be fun. Mad fun, with Lots of food and drinks.

Folu, on the other hand, says, "I think I got the most of my dream wedding; handsome groom, large reception, wedding song and choreography by us. It's more of what I would have done differently... I'd have had a more princess-like hairdo, more souvenirs, more small shops. What made my wedding grande for me was the fun my husband and I had during the event. We were practically giggling and having a blast all through the wedding."

Lovely, right?

Layem wished her wedding was different. "I would have wanted a perfect number for my train. Six bridesmaids, six groomsmen, a flower girl and a little groom."                                         Colour coordination nko? "How come I used all those colours?" She wondered. "My dress would have been a ball gown, with a different hairdo and more make up, not the simple hairdo I had with practically no makeup on." Actually, the hairstylist disappointed us. She didn't show up that morning so we improvised.

My baby😆, Mrs M's wedding was on a weekday. A Wednesday morning to be precise. I love love love LOVE the idea. The ushers went round table by table, asking people if they had eaten or if they wanted more. Not the usual "no more food" or "meat is finished," which is what late comers get to hear most times at weddings.

Everyone had something to eat. Some had second helpings while some even took away since there was more than enough food to go round. We didn't have a sea of faces because people were at work 😂😃 though some were able to steal in and out.                                 We had fun. There is a reason she is my daughter...

The guys are not left out.

G-Blaze and Bikhan said they will have big weddings, they will give their women their dream weddings if that's what they want, especially if "pepper rest" (if there is money).

We argued about it and they insisted. Why would they hold small weddings?

Make I no talk that thing. Okay o.

What if she doesn't want a big wedding?

"Well if she doesn't want, then we do what she wants," they chorused. They went further to say, "Aunty K, no dey talk like that. If money dey, you go reason small wedding?"

Seriously?

My dream wedding has always been...

Simple.

Very few people.

I used to say a maximum of a hundred and fifty people. Then my Mum would protest, saying her family alone is more than 150. She later warmed up to the idea when I gisted her about my baby's wedding...

My Dad even said it was a fantastic idea. No need for the crowd. 

I wouldn't want to look around and see strange and unfamiliar faces on my wedding day. 

I want to have as few people as possible. I want to look around and see faces I'm familiar with. 

I don't want want to look up and wonder who the people are or who invited them.

That kinda crowd would wear me out.

So my dream wedding is a very small crowd, more than enough to eat and drink for everyone,

Lots of music (a live band and a DJ), enough dancing and laughter in a love-filled atmosphere. 

I don't want people that would be there only to talk about what they feel should have been done differently.

I'd rather have close friends and family.

I want people that are coming to celebrate with me.

In a nutshell, I want my people only😉

Do you feel me?

The fewer the better.

I got out of the bathroom, went on my knees and began to thank God in advance for my wedding because I don plan am for my mind already.

If you don't get an Invitation, I don dey beg una already.

😃😂😁😅😅😁

NO VEX IN ADVANCE 😍😚😘😙💙

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